Do You Enjoy Being Single?

Many women declare that they will adopt a lot of cats because they believe that they will spend the rest of their lives alone. There are indeed benefits in having a life partner, such as sharing a mortgage with someone and sexual intercourse. However, there are also benefits to living a single life. It is okay to meet your one true love still. 

However, the concept of being single and alone should not frighten you. Perhaps finding your one true love was a top priority in your life. Maybe you felt it was an essential need. As you grow older and more mature, perhaps you have started to recognize what being single can offer. Below are some symptoms and signs that you have begun enjoying being single.

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Sign 1: You Watch Netflix alone

You no longer use Netflix as an activity to do during a date. You have started to enjoy watching shows on Netflix, and you do not mind watching these shows by yourself.

Sign 2: You Stopped Buying Girl Magazines And Started With Housekeeping Or Other Subscriptions

You used to subscribe to Cosmo and other kinds of girl magazines. You used to read their fashion tips and how to meet your one true love. You even used to read their tips on sex. But you have stopped subscribing to those kinds of magazines and now subscribe to other types of magazines. You now read magazines about food and entertainment news.

Sign 3: You Have Become A Bit Of A Slob

When you enter your home, you immediately take off your shoes and leave them lying where you took them off. As you move through your house, you take off pieces of clothing and also leave them where you took them off. There is now a trail of accessories and clothing all over your home.

Sign 4: You Have Not Been Grooming Yourse lf Much

You used to spend hours each day on your grooming regimen. But now you spend weeks without shaving DOWN THERE.

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Sign 5: You Occupy The Whole Bed When You Sleep

You used to sleep on only one side of the bed. But now you sleep like a starfish occupying the whole bed even if the mattress is a queen-sized bed.

Sign 6: You Purchase Items Designed For Single People

You no longer need help with your invisible zipper because you bought a device that assists you in getting it up or down. You purchased a tool that helps you open jars that are hard to open. You even bought a cookbook with recipes designed for only one person.

Sign 7: You Have A Varie ty Of Glasses

You own different varieties of glasses. You could even say it’s a smorgasbord of glasses. You usually have them displayed on the table beside your bed. It seems that people who are not single do not do this. But you are single, and you can do whatever you want to do.

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Sign 8: You Still Order Meals Good For Two

You eat one meal and save the second meal for later. It is more efficient than having to cook then.

Sign 9: Your Pinterest Board Is Now About Practical Matters

Your Pinterest board used to be about your future wedding plans. Now you pin food recipes and how to recycle old t-shirts.

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Sign 10: You Are Too Focused On Your Career

You used to dream of getting married and appending a Mrs. to your name. Now you are concentrating on your career and attaching the word CEO after your name.

Sign 11: You Equate Dating As A Fun Thing

You are dating someone used to be a serious matter that often made you nervous. Now it is a fun game that you enjoy.

Bits Of Advice On Single People

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Many literary pieces are advising how to get a significant other. However, what should you do until you get one? Here is some advice on remaining happy, and content, while being unattached.

Advice 1: Do Activities On Your Own.

Many individuals are frightened to do activities by their lonesome. But being unattached should not prevent you from doing things. You should view a film. Eat out in a nice restaurant. Go to a grocery store and shop. Take a stroll in a park.

Advice 2: Avoid Being Cynical.

This will be difficult to do since there will be moments when you feel despondent. There will be moments that you will feel frustrated. There will be moments when you will be lonely. However, you should not despair. Know that better things will come tomorrow.

Advice 3: Go On A Journey, All By Yourself.

It may seem unnatural to go on a journey by yourself. But it will only feel that way at the start. Going on a vacation all by yourself provides you with greater freedom. You can set your timetable and explore places that you truly want to visit.

Advice 4: Find Yourself.

Get to know yourself better. Determine what your desires, goals, setbacks, and dreams are in life. Investigate the small troubled actions you frequently do and determine the reasons you do them. Determine who you are and what aspects about yourself you need to work on in to be whole.

Advice 5: Nurture Other Forms Of Kinship.

Having a significant other is not the only form of kinship available to you. Nurture your kinship with your friends and relatives. Relationships usually wane and strengthen as time passes; therefore, you should treasure the moments you have with your friends and relatives.

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Advice 6: Let Your Feelings Flow.

This advice goes hand in hand with getting to know yourself better. Do not bottle up your emotions. Admit to yourself the feelings that you feel whether it is sadness, anger, excitement, jealousy, or disappointment. If you feel gloomy, it is okay to shed tears.

Advice 7: Socialize With New People.

Socialize with new individuals to acquire new friends and not to find a significant other. Go out and have a conversation with different individuals. Hear what other individuals want to converse about with you. Get out of your comfort zone.

Advice 8: Be True To Yourself.

Have you encountered an individual you truly desired? You can be dishonest to yourself and do nothing. Or you could be genuine to yourself and make a move and talk to the individual.

This advice must also be applied to dating online and all your other relationships.

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Advice 9: Do Activities That You Don’t Normally Do.

Be adventurous and zany. Go to a karaoke bar and sing your hearts out. Go to a dance studio and take tap dancing lessons.

Advice 10: Do Not Be Afraid To Commit Errors.

Experience your existence to the fullest and do not be afraid of committing errors along the way. As a human being, you will err sometimes, but that is normal, and it’s okay.

 

 

Living Your Life, The Single And Happy Way

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Many individuals consider being unattached as a sickness that needs to be cured. Many individuals also believe that having a significant other is better than being by your lonesome. If you do not enjoy being unattached, here are some items that might brighten your day.

Things Can Change

It does not matter if you have been unattached for a very, very long time. You should remember that everything and anything is achievable. All you have to do is to accept that fact that things can change in an instant. You might be single now, but you can meet someone tomorrow, next week or next year.

Set The Standards, And Never Settle

Do not go out with an individual because you are afraid you will never find a significant other. Many individuals settle for someone because they are so scared of being by their lonesome. However, you should not be afraid of being alone. Never settle.

Get To Know Yourself Better

Many use the time they spend with other individuals as a means of running away from their selves. Being unattached is an excellent opportunity to get to know yourself better.

Do Not Pursue

If you have to pursue an individual, then that means they are not interested in you. If they are not interested in you, then you should also not be interested in them.

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Reinvent Yourself.

Do not search for an individual to make you whole. If you require an individual to make you whole, then that means you are not complete in the first place.

Cherish The Alone Time.

Every person is unique. However, the difficulty lies in the fact that many individuals, particularly single people, do not believe in this. It is perfectly fine to spend a weekend by yourself to unwind, let loose, and be yourself.

There Are Still Nice People Out There Who Could Be “The One.”

Do not believe that all the nice individuals are already seeing someone. There are still a lot of eligible and unattached individuals for you.

An Uncertain Future Can Be An Opportune Future.

One of the items unattached individuals hate is not being able to know and command the future. Many people hate uncertainty and have questions that cannot be answered. However, an uncertain future can be a suitable future.

Concentrate On What You Possess Now, Instead Of Thinking Of What You Lack.

Do not concentrate on the gloomy thoughts that you do not have a significant other. Concentrate on what you hold, such as having food to eat, owning a car, having good health, having great friends, and having an incredible career.

Occupy Your Time With Activities That Make You Whole.

Do you enjoy movies? You could go out and watch a movie. Do you like swimming? You could join a swimming or polo team. Do you want to exercise? You could join a gym. Do you like food? You could go out and eat at a fine restaurant.

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You Should Treat Yourself In The Same Manner That You Want Your Potential Significant Other To Treat You

If you have not been kind to your former significant others, do not do it again. If you have not been nice to yourself, cease and desist.

If You Are Lonely, Spend Some Time With Other People.

Helping other individuals will make you feel better. You could volunteer at an orphanage or a shelter for dogs.

Be Patient

Do not just settle for any individual. You should wait for your One True Love. Just hang on, he or she will come.

Single And Happy, Even Without A Partner

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Spending a lot of time gazing at your smartphone waiting for a voice call or a text reply, and questioning whether someone has ghosted you yet again can be emotionally exhausting. This is true even for the most self-assured of individuals. Being unattached indeed has advantages such as having the entire bed to yourself. However, being single is sometimes difficult. This is especially true if you want to have a significant other. Below is some advice on how to be cheerful even if you are unattached.

Advice 1: Engulf Yourself In Activities That Are Meaningful. Relish The HERE And NOW.

Scientists who study on people with inner peace, happiness, and contentment are very definite that what you do with your time, and the state of your mind is more important than having a significant other. You can have a significant other but still, be lonely and sad. Having a happy and satisfied life is an aggregation of exercising self-awareness, having the support of friends and relatives, and participating in meaningful activities.

Advice 2: Acknowledge That Not Everything You Think Is The Truth.

Sometimes you will have thoughts that are not positive. You might think that you will never find a significant other. Or you might think that all individuals worth your time to date are already with someone. Breaking free from a cycle of thoughts that are not positive can be difficult. A piece of advice that can assist in breaking free is to realize that not every idea in your head is correct.

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Advice 3: Do Not Delay Your Goals In Life, Even If You Are Partnerless.

If you are unhappy about being partnerless, then, ask yourself how having a significant other would change your existence. Perhaps you would answer that with a significant other you would be less ashamed. Or maybe with a significant other, you would stop having extensions for your eyelashes. Or perhaps with a significant other, you plan to have children. Regardless of the actions that you expect once you have a significant other, you should begin achieving them immediately.

Advice 4: Learn From Your Past Experiences. Do Not Allow Bad Moments To Ruin Your Present Life.

Very many individuals are so emotionally damaged by their bad experiences or by an excruciating breakup that they have given up all hope of finding a significant other. The first step towards recovery is to cease focusing on your former significant other. The second step is not to compare the individual you are currently dating with your former significant other. Also, do not remember past events with nostalgia.

Advice 5: Do Not Expect Too Much From Your Current Partner, If There Is One.

It’s good to be thrilled about seeing an individual. However, there is a subtle distinction between being excited about encountering a new individual and being over-excited that the individual you are about to meet will be your One True Love.

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Advice 6: Just Be You.

Be kind and be true to yourself. You don’t have to change who you are just because of another person.

Post-Breakup Thoughts That Healed Me And Prevented Me From Needing A Therapist

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Considering you have a friend, spouse, or family member who works as a therapist, have you ever asked them how many individuals have visited their clinic after a breakup?

The truth is that you can probably tell from experience that dealing with a messy split is never a soothing activity. You lose the love of your life to another individual or due to bad decisions, after all. That is enough for you to go through various stages of grief. And if you do not realize that that’s what’s happening in you, you may either feel too depressed to function or too angry to see reason.

In case you want to avoid going to a therapist’s clinic as much as possible and deal with your situation with professional intervention, you should read the passage below. Who knows, that may encourage you to change some things in your life for the best.

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The Story

“I won’t give up on us even if the skies get rough…”

For people who have already found their soul mate, life partner, better half, or however you want to call it, this line in the lyrics from the song of Jason Mraz expresses how much they have gone through just to be with their loved one. But, for some other individuals, too, hearing this song is like having a realization when you get older and wiser after believing in fairy tales for so long: not everyone or everything has a happily ever after.

And that’s the painful truth.

It is very understandable for you to want to believe that the person you are romantically involved with right now is the person you will be with for the rest of your life, After all, admit it or not, male and female readers, we all want HAPPINESS in our lives. Plus, it is not wrong to fight for what you have if, God forbid, your relationship is challenged.

The Reality

However, before you do this, you have to remember who you are. You are not just a love-struck person whose judgment is clouded by the intense feelings that you have for the other person because love can be addictive to some people. In my opinion, loving should be like those commercial brands that say their products are 99.9% effective. You can love 99.9%, that’s fine, but that remaining 0.01% should at least be love for yourself. This is an important fact that individuals often forget when they get involved with someone.

Withstanding all the trials that come in your way would be easier to win over when you are with the person who loves you as much as you do to him/her. Nevertheless, if you feel like you’re already emotionally battered and it’s just you who is left fighting for the relationship, LET GO. It will be hard, yes; you may feel as if you are dying, too. Despite that, what else can you do? Besides, it is the lesser evil than waiting for the other person to come around when you already know that he won’t do so and you’re just in denial about it.

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The main idea here is that you have to have your eyes fully open when you get into a relationship. You have to know the possible outcomes of it. Loving someone is a blissful feeling, but you have to be aware and ready when some unexpected things happen inside the relationship. Love whole-heartedly, but don’t be afraid to let go when you realize that it’s the only thing that you can do to save yourself – and the other person – from further heartaches.

Now, some of you may say, “How dare you to say these things?” while reading this, but all I can say is that I have been in that situation once upon a time. The happiness of being in love and loved, the pain that comes when indifferences start to show, and the helplessness that seeps through when you don’t know how else to save the relationship that is already on a dead end – I know such feelings firsthand. And I’m writing this as the person who has almost forgotten her real self after falling in love. Almost, but not quite.

I may or may not give up, but the important thing is that “I’m still looking up.”

In The End

Going into a relationship is your choice, not anyone else’s. Going out of it is a decision that you should be able to make as well, especially if you know that it gives you nothing but pain these days.

Think of everything mentioned above to heal yourself post-breakup. Good luck!

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