“Sometimes people of all ages feel like they need to do things to make their partner stay with them, even if those things are unhealthy,” according to psychologist Brian Mustanski Ph.D. Spending a lot of time gazing at your smartphone waiting for a voice call or a text reply, and questioning whether someone has ghosted you yet again can be emotionally exhausting. This is true even for the most self-assured of individuals.
Being unattached indeed has advantages such as having the entire bed to yourself. However, being single is sometimes difficult. This is especially true if you want to have a significant other. Psychiatrist Grant Hilary Brenner MD, FAPA shares that, “Being partnered is generally seen as better than being single, and those who are single are often viewed with suspicion, especially if they say it is on purpose.”
Below is some advice on how to be cheerful even if you are unattached.
Advice 1: Engulf Yourself In Activities That Are Meaningful. Relish The HERE And NOW.
Scientists who study on people with inner peace, happiness, and contentment are very definite that what you do with your time, and the state of your mind is more important than having a significant other. You can have a significant other but still, be lonely and sad. Having a happy and satisfied life is an aggregation of exercising self-awareness, having the support of friends and relatives, and participating in meaningful activities.
Advice 2: Acknowledge That Not Everything You Think Is The Truth.
Sometimes you will have thoughts that are not positive. You might think that you will never find a significant other. Or you might think that all individuals worth your time to date are already with someone. Breaking free from a cycle of thoughts that are not positive can be difficult. A piece of advice that can assist in breaking free is to realize that not every idea in your head is correct.
Advice 3: Do Not Delay Your Goals In Life, Even If You Are Partnerless.
If you are unhappy about being partnerless, then, ask yourself how having a significant other would change your existence. Perhaps you would answer that with a significant other you would be less ashamed. Or maybe with a significant other, you would stop having extensions for your eyelashes. Or perhaps with a significant other, you plan to have children. Regardless of the actions that you expect once you have a significant other, you should begin achieving them immediately.
Advice 4: Learn From Your Past Experiences. Do Not Allow Bad Moments To Ruin Your Present Life.
Very many individuals are so emotionally damaged by their bad experiences or by an excruciating breakup that they have given up all hope of finding a significant other. The first step towards recovery is to cease focusing on your former significant other. The second step is not to compare the individual you are currently dating with your former significant other. Also, do not remember past events with nostalgia.
Advice 5: Do Not Expect Too Much From Your Current Partner, If There Is One.
It’s good to be thrilled about seeing an individual. However, there is a subtle distinction between being excited about encountering a new individual and being over-excited that the individual you are about to meet will be your One True Love.
Advice 6: Just Be You.
Be kind and be true to yourself. You don’t have to change who you are just because of another person. Occupy your time with activities that make you whole. Do you enjoy movies? You could go out and watch a movie. Do you like swimming? You could join a swimming or polo team. Do you want to exercise? You could join a gym. Do you like food? You could go out and eat at a fine restaurant. “When you’re alone you have to be more self-sufficient,”says Dr. Niloo Dardashti, a New York-based psychologist and relationship expert.